How to set the scene for self-pleasure
Create a sacred space
This is essential to a Tantric experience. Light some candles, incense, or anything that can enhance the aromas in the room. Create an extraordinary world. This practice will help your mind know that it’s safe to let go and stay in the present moment focusing on the sensations and feelings moving through the body.
Select your toy
There are no rules here but do be present and mindful with your use and ensure that you have read all instructions. Using the right lube for toys is also essential to safe practice and play. Water-based lubricant is safe to use with toys and always your safest bet – another upside: it won’t stain the sheets!
Self-pleasure ideas
Here are a few ideas to inspire your self-pleasure practice.
1. An orgasmic bubble bath
This is an absolutely essential and luxurious way to de-stress and unplug from the day. Embrace the exquisite pleasure of being submerged in water, while feeling all the sensations on your body. Toys can help enhance the experience.
Always ensure you use a waterproof toy when enjoying a session in water – remember there is a difference between waterproof and water-resistant!
2. Sensual body massage (solo or together)
Allowing ourselves to fully surrender into the vibration of touch is a powerful practice. Bringing your full attention to what you can feel allows you to come out of your head and reconnect with the body. This is powerful for both the giver and receiver.
Why not take turns in helping each other to unwind using a massager and asking yourself or your partner what it is you deeply desire? Give them loving feedback. For example, “I desire you to massage my feet” (and remember to always say thank you!).
Use your sounds to direct them – or simply say, “I desire you to use lighter touch” or “slowww touch”.
3. Sexy dance!
Put something on that makes you feel like the sexy, sensual Goddess or God that you are and dance around your boudoir! Have fun with it and play with a sexy outfit or lingerie. Give yourself permission!
Watch yourself in the mirror (I dare you!) and connect to that inner sexual essence. Be present with yourself. Intend to see yourself through the eyes of love with no judgment.
This is such a nourishing and liberating thing to do. It allows you to tap back into your playful side as you dance your cares away.
Tip: ensure you use your breath, sound and movement here and notice the difference it makes!
4. Define ME-time!
This is a process where you can get really creative – be a curious explorer!
Ask yourself: what would you love to give yourself that you’ve never received before? What would you love to explore?
There’s an incredible smorgasbord of delicious and tantalising toys out there: all shapes, sizes, and textures. Find what works for you and your body!