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How to Use a Wand Vibrator Solo or With a Partner By: JoEllen Notte Published onAugust 15, 2023Share

How to Use a Wand Vibrator Solo or With a Partner

 

Today’s sex toy market offers more variety than ever! There seems to be something new and exciting every day. Even with that being the case, some classic products never go out of style. These toys are on the shelf in almost any sex shop or adult retail website. Today, we will talk about one of these sex toy staples: the perennially popular wand vibrator. 

Big, powerful, and lauded by users for more than half a century, wand massagers are beloved among experienced users and newcomers (pun fully intended) alike. Why? Well, to be blunt, these powerhouses are terrific at delivering orgasms, making them equally brilliant for folks looking to add a little bonus to their play and folks on their “trying to have a first orgasm” journey!

So let’s talk about wand vibrators, what they are, why to use one, and how to use one alone or with a partner!

What is a wand vibrator?

Created initially as massage tools for sore muscles, wand vibrators (aka vibrating wands, wand massagers, magic wands, etc.) are large vibrators that typically feature a large rounded head. They tend to have powerful motors meaning wand vibrators deliver strong vibrations for some intense sensations. Additionally, their large heads can reach a larger surface area. While this isn’t ideal if you are a fan of super-focused pinpoint stimulation, it can be terrific for exploring places you didn’t even know could be stimulated!

 

Why should I use a wand vibrator?

At first look, a wand vibrator can seem a bit daunting (they can be really big!), and many folks who haven’t tried them don’t get the appeal, so let’s talk about what you might enjoy about using a wand!

Power

Wand vibrators are powerful. They deliver strong, intense, rumbly vibrations that few other products can match. This feature makes Wands great for everyone, from folks who have struggled with orgasm to folks who want a surefire orgasm every time. 

Worried that the power will be too much for your or their sensitive parts? In that case, a big bonus is that, because wands are so powerful, they can often be used over clothes or to deliver indirect stimulation – like stimulating the clitoris via applying a vibrating wand to the pubic bone. 

Broad stimulation

Sure, some folks love super-focused pinpoint stimulation that zeroes in on the teeny-tiniest little part of their anatomy and goes to town! Other folks spent their whole lives trying tiny powerful vibrators that they are told are “the best” and never enjoyed the big guys. Why? Because anatomy is fun! Especially for folks with vulvas. It’s so much more than a clitoris and a G-spot! It’s a whole complex system of connected nerves and erectile tissue, and many folks don’t even know the potential for pleasure that that complex system holds. Enter broad stimulation! It lets you spread those powerful vibrations over areas you may never have considered stimulating.

Reach

We don’t discuss this often, but sex toys aren’t always super-accessible for folks with mobility challenges, especially the small ones. They sometimes require us to awkwardly reach, grasp, and contort to get them in the proper position. Wand vibrators tend to be significantly longer than your average toy — the PinkCherry Pinky’s Premium Power Wand, for example, is 12″ long, making it way more manageable and comfortable to wield. Comfortable use makes for accessible pleasure, and that’s never a bad thing! 

Versatility

Wand vibrators are versatile AF! From the variety of speeds, settings, vibration patterns, and intensity levels to options for solo and partnered use, the fact that they can stimulate vulvas, perineum, and even (with attachments) G-spots and prostates — they can stimulate EVERY body (sensitivity permitting). Wand vibrators aren’t one trick ponies; you can get a ton of use from this toy. Yes, really.

Speaking of the different ways you can use a wand vibrator. Remember how we said they started as massagers? Well, they never stopped being good at that! You can still use your wand vibrator to soothe sore, tense, or aching muscles.  

So, there you go; there are plenty of reasons to use a wand vibrator! Now that we’re clear on that, let’s talk about how exactly you do it. Sure, they’re very versatile and can be enjoyed in a number of ways, but let’s go over how to get started using one on your own and adding one to partner play. 

How to Use a Wand Vibrator

When using a wand vibrator, it’s mostly a question of preference. Here are some tips to set you up for success:

Be comfortable

Comfort is always an essential first step! Make sure you are somewhere you can feel safe and relaxed, and experiment with positions to see how you feel most comfy. Remember, everything about this should feel good.

Get to know the controls and settings first

Wands can have different speeds and patterns and multiple buttons and switches that control them. Trust me when I tell you there are few things more frustrating than trying to crank up the power when you are on the Orgasm Expressway only to hit the wrong button! It’s why it’s worth taking a moment to learn how everything works before you get down to business.  

Don’t forget to lube

Wands are generally used externally (though there are attachments for internal use!), which might make us think lube isn’t necessary, but I always think the smooth, comfortable glide that lube provides is a bonus.

Try some stuff

Now it’s time to see what your wand can do. Play with different ways of holding it, pressing different parts against your body, and even which body parts you stimulate. Remember what we said about broad and indirect stimulation. Explore!

Add a partner

A wand with a partner is so much fun! You can explore mutual masturbation, you can use the wand on each other (for folks with penises, it can feel great pressed against the perineum or with a stroker attachment), you can use it together (especially if both partners have vulvas), or you can incorporate the wand during intercourse where it really shines for clitoral stimulation during rear entry positions. 

Honestly, though, the ways you and your partner can use a wand together are limited only by your imagination. Try some stuff out and see what you enjoy. 

How to Clean a Wand Vibrator

As with any toy, you want to clean your wand vibrator after each use. The best method will vary from toy to toy. Waterproof wands can be cleaned with soapy water, while corded wands should be wiped down or sprayed with a toy cleaner. Consult your toy’s cleaning instructions to find the best method for keeping it clean. Once you are done with whatever process you use, Pat it dry with a clean towel or let it air dry on a clean surface. This is important! Do not put toys away wet. 

Speaking of putting toys away, let’s talk about how to do that too. Shocker: your toys will get dirty if you toss them in a nightstand drawer or under your bed. Seriously, so much dust and fuzz and stuff. So be sure to put your clean and thoroughly air-dried want in a storage case or pouch or even wrap it in a clean cloth. Just make sure it’s all cozy and protected. Take care of your toys, and they will take care of you!

If you’re looking for a wand vibrator, knowing what you want and how to use it can go a long way toward having the best possible experience. No matter what you need, PinkCherry has you covered. Look at our colossal vibrator sex toy selection; you are bound to find something you love! 

 

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