Okay, so if you’re here you know what vibrators are for. And it’s not for curing hysteria, no matter what the original inventors claimed. For most of us, a vibrator is something for a bit of self pleasure. And masturbation is amazing! Beyond the physical pleasure, masturbation can also provide stress relief, help you get to know your body and what you like, and can be a great way to release sexual tension if partnered sex isn’t on the cards right now. So yes, masturbation absolutely can be part of your self care plan.
But the humble vibrator has come a long way since medical science thought the womb wandered around the body. Modern designs are sleek, multifunctional, and some are designed for boosting pleasure during sex with a partner. So whether you’re ready to give yourself a hand, are keen to explore a bit of mutual masturbation, or you want to add a little something extra to sex with a partner, there’s vibrator out there for you. On the other hand, there’s so many options, maybe you need a bit of help working out which one you should get – or want to know how to use it before committing to buying it.
And that’s why we’re here. So sit back, relax, and let us guide you through the amazing world of vibrators and how to use them.
Choosing Your Vibrator
If you’re here, we’re assuming you already know what you want, or are in the process of deciding. Aside from where you want to use it, here’s a few things to consider:
- Travel Much? If you want to take your vibrator with you, consider a mini vibrator and look out for travel lock functions – you don’t want it to start going off in your checked luggage or while you’re going through airport security! There’s also a number of wearable vibrators designed with quiet modes for public play, if that’s something you want to explore.
- Where Are You Stimulating? Some vibrators are designed more for internal or external use, but many can be used all over your body, on any of your erogenous zones. Just remember that porous materials can absorb bodily fluids and maybe consider that before you use a toy made out of TPE on your lips. You can always check our comprehensive guide to sex toy materials if you need help.
- What do you like to look at? Whether you want something fun and flashy or sleek and classy, pick one with a colour and aesthetic that fits your style. Visual stimulation matters as much as the manual sometimes.
If you need a bit more guidance sorting through the options, check out our vibrator buying guide for our top picks, whatever your needs are!
How to use a vibrator
So you’ve just opened up your brand new vibrator? Where to start?
Charge it!
Trust us, there’s nothing worse than your vibrator dying on you just before you climax. So make sure it’s got the juice it needs to last. We recommend charging your vibrator for an hour before you get down to business. But while you’re waiting, maybe try…
Setting the mood
Where you are, and how relaxed and comfortable you feel, will have a huge impact on how easy it is to get turned on. Think of setting the mood as stimulating all your sexy senses. So it means more than just dimming the lights (although this is a great idea too). Here’s a few suggestions:
- Tidy your room. Unless you like the smell of unwashed laundry. Not kink-shaming here.
- Light a candle or three for the soft flickering light–and maybe smell.
- Use an evaporator or diffuser for some aromatherapy
- Tantalise your taste buds with some sweet fruit or dark chocolate
- Pull out that sexy playlist you’ve been working on
- Maybe put on some porn in the background
By involving all your senses in the experience, your entire body (and mind) gets to enjoy the fun.
Take the time to explore
Before you take your new toy straight downstairs, it’s always a good idea to get to know it first. Find out what the buttons do, and explore the different intensities and settings. Different vibrators come with different pulse patterns and speeds, so be sure to check them out so you know what to expect and which ones you’ll enjoy.
Try using your vibrator all over your body. They’re not just for your genitals. Think of it like foreplay and maybe try it on erogenous zones like lips, nipples, neck and inner thigh.
You can also use it over your clothing to ease yourself into the pleasurable sensations. Using it over underwear can be especially helpful for those who own an extra-sensitive clitoris. If you typically rock the cotton undies, try swapping them out for something a little silkier to help with the glide. You can even put some lube on the inside of your underwear to enhance the experience and get an amazing sensation. Speaking of which…
Use lube
Even if you’re exploring solo, or not expecting any penetration, it still pays to use lube. It makes everything feel better. Apply a little lube to your genitals and to the vibrators and see just how much of a difference it makes!
Experiment, experiment, experiment!
Remember, there’s no “one way” to use a vibrator. Try experimenting with different angles and pressure to see what feels the best for you. Not sure where to start? Here’s a few of our top tips that work for most vibrators. If you’re after specific tips for internal stimulation with say, a g-spot vibrator or rabbit vibrator, check out the specific tips further down!
- Ride your toy by laying on top of it and moving your hips around with whatever movements turn you on the most.
- Use your vibrator to stimulate your erogenous zones by holding it lightly over your skin.
- Tap it against your body or genitals using a light rhythm. Once you’ve found your groove this one can really get you in the mood!
- Press it into your genitals, and then back off. Repeat. This a great way to edge yourself.
- Edging. Edging is where you build yourself up and get very very close to finishing, but then you stop and pull back. Once you’re in control again, start again and repeat the process. The longer you can hold off finishing, the better it will feel! See how long you can last.
Clean your toy
When you’re done, it’s important to clean your toy. Toys can carry harmful bacteria and other nasties that you definitely don’t want on or in your body.
We recommend using anti-bacterial cleaning spray and warm water to wash your toys. Make sure to let your vibrator dry completely after you clean it, and before putting it away. Store it somewhere dry and cool to ensure your new toy lives a long and happy life giving you long and happy orgasms!
How to use insertable vibrators
If you’ve ever shopped for a vibrator, you’ll know just how many different styles, materials, and shapes there are to choose from. Below are usage guides for insertable vibrators, and while many of these are designed for solo play, they are great for partnered pleasure as well.
How to use a classic vibrator
Classic vibrators are phallic and penetrative, similar to a dildo, and often are designed as ‘dildos with vibrating functions’. They come in many different lengths and sizes, and are often considered a beginner-friendly option. Their obvious use is penetration, but you can get creative and use them in foreplay, for erotic massage or pleasuring your erogenous zones.
Classic vibrators are best suited to those who enjoy internal stimulation. If you love doggy style and cowgirl/boy positions, chances are you’ll love classic vibrators. Using lube to help you ease into things, start by getting comfortable with the vibrator inside of you. You can then turn the vibrator on once you’re ready for things to get hot and heavy, and then from here on out you can find your groove and do whatever feels best for you.
Just remember if you’re looking to use a vibrator for anal play ensure it has a flared base to ensure you don’t lose it up there. It’s happened. Don’t ask.
How to use a rabbit vibrator
Rabbit vibrators are designed to give the user both internal and external stimulation. The name comes from the fact that the toy has two arms: one designed for vaginal insertion and one for clitoral stimulation. The arms are often shaped like bunny ears and many have multiple motors to provide a variety of extra stimulation.
Use some lube and slide the longest part of the rabbit vibrator inside your vagina. Once it’s deep enough, the shortest part (the rabbit ears) should line up with your clitoris. Once you’re in place and everything is where it needs to be, switch it on – you might enjoy moving it in or out of your vagina, otherwise, you’ll notice the head of the rabbit moves in a circular motion, which can feel amazing.
Rabbit vibrators can be used for anal stimulation, as the shorter arm stays on the outside of the body and keeps the toy from getting sucked into the body. It can also provide pressure to the perineum, but you may find the direction of the ears may not line up as well as they do on people with vulvas.
If you do want to get into some vibrating prostate play you need the next toy on this list.
How to use a prostate massager
Prostate Massagers are designed to be inserted anally, and have a curved arm to target the prostate with rumbly vibrations. All prostate massagers have a base, often with button controls and some premium models also provide vibrations to the perineum for additional pleasure.
We recommend using anal lube to slick up both your anus and the long arm of the massager, and then relax as you gently bear down on the long arm of the toy. You want the tip of the arm to point towards the front of your body to hit your prostate, and you may find pushing out slightly will help the toy slip in. Once you’re comfortable, turn the toy on, squeeze down and enjoy!
How to use an anal vibrator
Anal vibrators, AKA vibrating butt plugs, are unisex toys designed to stimulate the nerves of the anus, with the additional benefit of relaxing you – or your partner – potentially in preparation for anal penetration. The insertion process is very similar to that for a prostate massager – use a good quality anal lube, and relax as you bear down on the tip. The flared base of the butt plug will keep it secure, and all you need to do is turn on the toy and revel in the sensations.
If you’re new to anal play and are worried about potential messiness, check out our guide to using an anal douche.
How to use a g-spot vibrator
Much like the clitoral stimulator the name is a giveaway here. G-spot vibes are typically curved to stimulate g-spot – an area of the vagina that’s particularly sensitive to stimulation and can lead to intense sexual arousal and orgasm.
While not all women can orgasm from G-spot stimulation alone, many find that using a g-spot vibrator during sex or solo play can enhance their experience and help them reach new levels of pleasure.
Using an appropriate lube, you slide the g-spot vibrator inside you, keeping the curve of the toy facing towards your back. Take things slow and explore your body and responses – you’ll know when it’s hitting all the right places. Once you know where to place it, feel free to crank up the vibrator to your liking.
How to use an egg vibrator
An egg vibrator is a small, handheld vibrator that’s usually shaped like an egg. They’re usually made from soft, body-safe materials like silicone, and they come in a variety of colours and styles.
Egg vibrators are usually used for clitoral and vaginal stimulation, but can also be used for other sensitive areas like the nipples or anus. For external stimulation, turn the toy on and, press it against your body – much in the way that you’d use a bullet vibrator.
For vaginal stimulation, simply lube up, insert the egg vibrator and switch on. It can even be worn under clothing while lying, sitting, standing, or going about your life. Make sure to leave the retrieval stem upright and outside your body for when you’re ready for the party to be over.
We do not recommend using egg vibrators for internal anal stimulation as they don’t typically have a flared base. If you’re after a similar experience, we suggest looking for anal beads or an appropriately shaped anal plug.
How to use a couples vibrator
A couples vibrator is designed to be used in partnered play. These range from vibes that go on a finger, to larger ones that can be worn during opposite sex intercourse.
If you’ve been wondering about the C-shaped vibrators, this is the bit you need. These are designed to be worn during penis in vagina penetrative sex. The flat arm is inserted into the vagina, with the other arm sitting snugly over the clitoris. Your partner can then also enter (don’t worry, you have room) with a penis, fingers or another toy. Switch the vibrator on and enjoy both internal and external stimulation. Couples vibrators often come with a remote or app control too, so you can change the intensity without having to fumble between yourselves to find the right button!
There’s a wild amount of different variations in couples vibrators. Each will have its own specific use and there will be clear instructions included in the packet, but sometimes working things out with your partner can be a lot more fun.
How to use external vibrators
The following vibrators are typically designed for external use. They range from clitoral vibrators to massage wands to cock rings and more. The finger vibes mentioned above also work great for external stimulation – here’s how you use the most common varieties.
How to use a bullet vibrator
Bullet vibes are a form of pocket vibrator and are designed largely for foreplay and external stimulation. Designed with portability in mind, many are designed to look innocuous in case someone gets a peek into your bag. Some look like lipstick tubes, others can be passed off as battery packs. Others you can display proudly as decor items or obvious sex toys. The choice is really yours.
To use, simply activate the bullet vibrator and hold it against your body – although pressing against your genitals works great, it can also be used against your lips, nipples, clitoris, perineum, or anywhere that feels good – try your arm or your inner thigh. Some bullet vibes are designed to be worn inside clothing – usually panties or a thong. These will attach, often with a magnet, for public play and stimulation, whether you’re controlling this yourself or handing the controls over to a partner.
We do recommend using an appropriate lube unless you’re trying to be discreet as that helps amplify sensations. And unless you’re really sure about what your bullet vibe is made of, keep it to external use only. Some of the metal pigmentations can contain heavy metals, and while they’re safe on your skin, they can be dangerous if left inside your body. If in doubt, stick to external play.
How to use a clitoral vibrator
A clitoral vibrator is a type of sex toy that is specifically designed (that’s right, you guessed it!) to stimulate the clitoris. It’s usually smaller and more powerful than a traditional vibrator, and many clitoris-owners find it to be much more effective at achieving orgasm.
Some newer clitoral vibrators aren’t even technically vibrators at all. Instead, they use pulsing air to create oral-like sucking and massaging sensations that will send you closer to an amazing orgasm.
This one’s simple: hold onto the handle, spread open your labia, if needed, and place the circular opening over your clitoris. Apply gentle pressure to create a good seal – water-based lubricant can help here – and turn it on.
That’s it. This will typically start the toy on its lowest setting and you can work your way up to whatever feels best for you. Before you know it you’ll be on your way to an earth-shattering, mind blowing orgasm. You’re welcome!
How to use a massage wand
Massagers, AKA massage wands or magic wands are a similar shape to classic vibrators, but they have a larger separate head attached at the top. A massager is usually held against the clitoris and can be used during masturbation or while you’re having sex, but you can use it anywhere that feels good – and don’t be afraid to get your partner in on the fun as well. A lot of people with penises will be surprised how good a massage wand feels on the glans and perineum.
For best results, lube the end of the wand and get yourself comfortable. Slowly move it onto your genitals and anywhere else that feels good. Alternatively, wedge it in place and grind your body against the vibrating tip. This is especially good for people with limited mobility.
Note that massagers are designed for external stimulation only – and they provide a deeper vibrating sensation than other regular vibrators. If you’re into bondage and edging, massage wands are a great option to keep your bottom on edge…
How to use a vibrating cock ring
Sometimes called a C-ring, couple’s ring, or penis ring, a cock ring fits over the penis and testicles. Typically shaped like a ring, some have multiple openings to provide separate grip for the penis shaft and testicles, and they work by restricting blood flow out of the penis, which can help prolong an erection, and hold back an orgasm.
Vibrating cock rings simply add a delicious rumble to your testicles and shaft. Some cock rings feature additional ridges and vibration points that are designed to press and vibrate against your own perineum if pointed back, or your partner’s clitoris or perineum during penetrative missionary sex. To use, slip your testicles through the cock ring first, and then push your penis though. You may need to push your penis into your body and then pop it out inside the ring. This is, of course, easier to do if you aren’t already hard. Then turn the ring on and enjoy!
To get the ring off after use, you can either reverse the process once you soften a bit, or if the ring stretches enough, bring it over your testicles first, and slip it off your erection when you have more space.
So there you have it…
Our guide to using all the most popular types of vibrators. Whether you’re a beginner searching for an entry-level vibrator, or you’re simply looking for a new toy to add to your collection, we’ve got you covered. Check out our huge range of vibrators to find your new best friend!