I don’t know about you, but my experiences of shower sex always felt a little awkward. Water was getting in my face, my feet were sliding around and it never quite felt like the movies portray it to be. All I could think of was getting a skin rash down there from the lack of lubrication and it’s difficult to feel genuinely aroused when you are thinking about the problems future you could be dealing with (IYKYK).
It wasn’t until I started treating myself to candle lit showers that I discovered how sensual the experience can be. These showers started to become part of the ritual I built for self-pleasure. I realised there is an art to shower play whether that be solo or with a partner.
Why shower sex?
I am a big advocate for taking sex out of the bedroom – it’s something we all can benefit from. And look, this may be a luxury given many of us live with housemates, family or children. It wouldn’t be PG to bang free-range in those circumstances. However, the bathroom gives you complete privacy and a change from bedroom. As creatures of comfort, we sometimes go with whatever is most convenient and easiest for us. Since the bedroom is very comfortable and the place we start and end our days, it makes sense that it becomes our default love-making location.
Breaking up the routine
Whether you are single or in a relationship, we need to create desire to keep or sex lives thriving. Desire can stem from the unknown, spontaneity and change. Mixing up your sex life with different locations or even toys can foster desire, and in turn better sex and happier relationships.
What are my top toy picks for making your shower sex better? I’m so glad you asked!
Your new favourite shower buddy – the Womanizer Wave
Now is the right time to do the responsible adult portion of this blog, and that it change your shower head. Trust me, it isn’t hard to do. You literally just unscrew it and replace the old with the new. And the Womanizer Wave Shower Head is a non-negotiable as part of your “self-care Sunday”. Honestly, I thought reaching an orgasm with a shower head was a myth until I swapped to the Womanizer. This shower head has three different functions including PleasureJet, PleasureWhirl and PowderRain all with a two intensity options. My personal favourite is the PleasureWhirl on high intensity after a little warm up.
The best ambiance – Lelo Flickering Touch Candle
If you can, try to enjoy this moment as the sun has set. Don’t reach for the bathroom lights – try a candle instead. The Flickering Touch Candle by Lelo fills the bathroom with a delicious scent of vanilla and crème de cacao whilst providing a just enough lighting to see your silhouette. This alone is going to transport your psyche to a more relaxing and sensual space. Your mind and body will begin to slow down and be more able to receive pleasure. These Lelo candles also double as a hot wax or warm massage oil. After you turn off the shower, blow out the candle and take it into the bedroom. You may like to massage this into your own body if you are treating yourself to a night of solo pleasure or pour it onto the back of your lover to give them a yummy massage.
Fixing the lube factor – a good silicone lube
Despite what you’ve seen in the hot sex shower scenes, real life can be uncomfortable due to water washing away natural lubrication. No matter if you’re having a solo shower experience, or having vaginal or anal sex with a partner, a lubricant is essential. The best lubricant to use in this scenario is silicone-based lube as it withstands the water and allows for smooth movements. Please be mindful that with silicone-based lubes aren’t used with condoms or silicone-based sex toys. If that’s part of your desired experience, I’d recommend a water-based lube knowing that you will likely need to reapply often.
Small tip, big power – Wild Secrets Seduce Vibe
The Wild Secrets Seduce Precision Vibrator is a small but mighty toy that can be used all over the body. The vibrator’s small tip makes it ideal to explore and tease both the known and yet to be discovered erogenous zones of your body such as your nipples, lower stomach, back, and inner thighs. If you are a lover of a clitoral orgasm this product is the perfect size to tease and awaken the clitoris through vulva stimulation. I personally selected this product for shower play are the top is not silicone and will pair nicely with silicone-based lube.
Wet & kinky – Frisky Suction Cup Cuffs
If you are having shower sex with a lover, why not go hands-free with a set of Suction Cup Cuffs? If you’ve been curious about exploring BDSM these shower suction cup restraints could be a fun way to start play around with power dynamics and restraint. Or a great way to explore bondage in a new environment if you’re already a fan. Have your partner set up the cuffs in comfortable position while they explore your body using the lube, precision vibrator and to finish off, the Womanizer shower head. Keep in mind, when stepping into this sort of play consent is a non-negotiable.
Read more: How to make consent sexy.
About those slipping feet
If reading this has sparked some ideas for your next solo pleasure-practice or to surprise your lover, that is exactly what I want. But please be mindful of how slippery the shower can be and when your mind is elsewhere you may overlook risk. I’d suggest having slower sex in simpler positions to avoid any slips. Another suggestion to make shower sex safer for all would be to place a non-slip mat on the shower floor.
Got that? Good. Now go and treat yourself to the sensual shower that you deserve!