When the scene is over, it’s important to make sure everyone feels okay, physically, mentally and emotionally. This is called aftercare, and all players, whether you’re a sub or a dom, can benefit from it.
Endorphins spike during play. It’s why BDSM, and sex in general, can feel so damn good. But when those endorphins come crashing down, people can often feel what is called a “drop”. It varies from person to person, but can often result in feeling down.
Aftercare can help you and your partner(s) deal with the drop. During aftercare, take off your gear, get warm and comfortable, treat yourself and your partner with any soothing massage needed, share a snack and hydrate, and make sure to check in with your partner to make sure they’re feeling okay. For more aftercare ideas, read our guide on bondage aftercare here.
Remember, everyone’s needs will be different, so make sure to discuss aftercare before you begin to play!